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Pro-active v’s Reactive

Thursday, October 29th, 2009

Proactive or reactive ?

Proactive or reactive ?

Pro-active v’s Reactive

Strangely enough, this is a definition I only thought about recently when my personal circumstances changed enough to make my usual manner of doing things begin to look a little ropey !

In business its pretty much accepted that proaction rather than reaction is what it takes to be successful – Moto’s like “seize the day” and “go for it” perfectly illustrate this. But being proactive is a skill like any other and it has to be developed over time. Its rather like just going to the gym once, there won’t be much benefit and you’ll probably strain something. So being proactive just the once will have much the same effect, you need to build up a system and a support network for it.

The definition of proactive is planning ahead and anticipating problems. Whilst the definition of reactive is waiting for problems to appear before dealing with them.

If you think about it, how much of your day are you a reaction to what is going on around you ? Grumpy customers? Having to do jobs that you don’t relish doing ? Calling the council ? Tackling staff about things they do that drive you crazy ? Setting budgets ? Dealing with things that you don’t like dealing with (whatever they may be for you ?)

Not dealing with things that you know are looming causes Stress, because at the back of your mind, you know its coming anyway….! Its also pretty unsatisfying, and leaves you in a kind of limbo where you can’t make decisions because you haven’t looked forward enough.

Being proactive can help eliminate problems before they appear, and since you can plan how to deal with things, you can act faster before all is lost ! Its also, believe it or not, less stressful, as taking control of any situation puts you in the driving seat, not the back seat, while the car slowly slides into a skid !

Being proative means planning what you want to do with your store, your staff, your stock, having budgets in place, advertising and marketing plans, and more importantly back up plans for when things just don’t go the way they’re meant to….. It takes a little longer and is a bit more effort, but the rewards are that you are in control, not buffeted by other peoples demands and caprices.

Being reactive is normally fairly stressful. You don’t know what’s coming up next, so you have to be ready for anything, and you’re not in full control of your life or your business.

So, just for fun, have a quick tot up of how much of your day is spent being proactive – or heading off next weeks or next months problems – so you’ll have a peaceful Christmas trading season - Go on, take the challenge and write down the list of 10 things that you know you should be dealing with, that you’ve been putting off :

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Now, make a plan for carrying out number one………. Keep it simple, put it in your diary and tell everyone what you’re going to do – that way you have to do it !

Strangely enough this simple system works almost all of the time

Good luck

What does success look like or feel like…?

Monday, May 11th, 2009
What does success look like or feel like?

What does success look like or feel like?

A quick whizz round all of us has revealed that we all have very different views of what success is…? For some success is a fast car, a hot girl and a lot of money. For others its achieving a goal and creating something, while for others its time for bubble baths !

Even more illuminating are the answers to the question “Are you successful ?” or “Do you consider yourself to be successful ?”

People answer this question from an entirely subjective viewpoint, whether they actually feel that they are successful, this is irrespective of their financial, emotional or work situation, and the answers are surprising !

I asked a good friend of mine this question “Do you think you are successful ? ” His answer was a resounding YES ! Not a seconds hesitation, clear and precise.

I asked him what did he judge it upon to be able to answer so immediately a question that has me pondering the answer ?

His reply - ” I keep trying ! ”

It blew me away !

If this was my criteria for success, then i’d definately be a raging success !

But its not my criteria !

Upon reflection, my criteria are all about how in control of things i am, this can be anything from business to relationships, gardening to laundry.

Obviously the times i can actually be in control of those things are few and far between. To add a bit of spice to it, for myself and make it a bit more difficult, i also see a successful person as someone who’s never flustered and has a fully functioning filofax with neat writing in it !

Yes, feel free to laugh any time you like ! My standards are clearly ridiculous - but i didn’t know that until i actually realised i had some standards.

So, my question to you today is : ” Are you successful ?” and how are you judging your decision?

The answers to the question just might give you some food for thought …!

Who’s the bogie man?

Friday, April 24th, 2009

bogieman-01-fatmanpress-nm1In the 1950s, Congressman George A. Dondero denounced modern art as a communist plot.

Every day, we hear ideas that some people are annoyed with or more likely, afraid of. And in the face of fear, people lose eloquence and start calling things names, usually names that don’t make a lot of sense.

There is a danger in labelling things, because once you give it a label, its like the wait is over. For instance if an ill patient is told that they’re about to die, chances are they will, there have been innumerable cases where members of the family have forbidden the doctors to relay the news in this way, and guess what the person lived on for several more years.

Of course, that’s illness, but I’m interested in the labelling of the “recession”

Its all in the mindset, your psychology, because sure as eggs is eggs stuff will happen, but its not the cards you’re dealt, its what you do with them ! In my local town there are now about 6 empty stores, but this week one of my favourite shops opened a new store – in a better location, and its been packed all week ! Why, because for the last three years they’ve been quietly getting on with it, building a network, building a mailing list of satisfied customers, not deviating from their USP, trying, refining and getting ready for the next step.

Did they let the “recession” stop them? The answer is a clear No !

Nothing is a communist plot any more, but there’s never a shortage of bogie men available to us, to make us afraid, steal our dreams so we can’t sleep and generally make the world a scary place.

Beware of the bogie men – they’re on your TV, they’re in the newspapers and they could be all around you !

Be careful who you listen to – make sure they’re not a bogie man !

Snakes and ladders of life !

Monday, April 20th, 2009

Watch out for snakes !

Watch out for snakes !

What if its all a game?

All the stuff we take so seriously. Sales figures and footfall, and conversions. Web stats, staff sickness, customer returns and all the rest of it !

What if its all a giant game?

Sure in a game there’s winners and losers, just as there are in life. Sometimes its in the roll of the dice, you slip down the snake through no fault of your own, nasty divorce, illness, unfavourable partnership, you name it, there’s lots of explanations how, lots of reasons why.

But if it is all a giant game, and you knew this (someone whispered in your ear) then how would you play the game? Would it be different because you knew it was just a game, would you take it less seriously? Would you play to win, or team up and help the other participants to stop someone else winning? What would be your strategy?

Would you be the banker ? or the old boot? In fact, lets take it a step further. What game would you choose to play if you could choose?

Scrabble, Monopoly, Snakes and ladders, Cluedo or twister?

What does that say about you?

Finally, are you the kind of player who has a strategy to win? A long term game plan, or is it all just for fun. Because usually we win the game we play, and those with a plan, a vision and a long term view and a lot of hard work and persistence are the winners. Not always – unforeseen stuff can happen, but usually.

So what game are you playing?

In the long run, though, it’s those with right intention, a long term view and consistent persistence that manage to win.

Good thing, too.

Words create our world !

Wednesday, April 8th, 2009

Don't go on a rant fest - Get peeved instead !

Don't go on a rant fest - Get peeved instead !

Words are powerful, they enable us to describe our world, how we see it and what we’re looking at, without words we couldn’t have a shared experience. Just think, instead of this word recession we could be calling it a woobleding, or a shizkayump. Would we feel different if we had to read about a wobble in the woobleding each morning, or a shift in the shizkayump? I think we just might

We are lucky in the UK that we have such a rich language, with many layers of description and finesse. But we must be careful because the words we use shape our world…. Literally. We should be careful lest we conform to Lily Tomlin’s view that “man invented language to satisfy his deep need to complain!”

So, taking the process right back to the start, it all begins with thinking. We don’t feel then think. We think then allocate sensations to the thought process, which we then call feelings. So if you consistently tell yourself that you’re tired – you’ll start yawning and you’ll feel tired.

So the key is to stand guard on your vocabulary, I got thinking about this after a recent post on the Springfair trading talk blog. The post was about these tough times we’re in, and while I’m no Ostrich, I think there’s a danger in assigning labels. For instance the word tough, implies difficult, aggressive and unfavourable conditions.

I prefer the term “challenging” which implies something altogether more thought provoking and with some positive connotations. The dictionary describes a challenge as:
1. Calling for full use of one’s abilities or resources in a difficult but stimulating effort:
2. Absorbing; intriguing:

I believe that we would feel different about our situation if faced with a challenging time, rather than a tough time. A challenging time is one where you start to really use your head, you get creative. You look for inspiration. You are thrown down a challenge, whilst you merely suffer a tough time ! Tough implies that its bigger than you, harder than you and you’d best cower away, while challenge implies ingenuity, spirit and smart thinking…

You could argue that this is just semantics, and in a way it is, but words really do create our world – I’ll prove it to you….

Next time you’re really really mad about something, don’t have a rant fest, call in the perspective police and when asked what’s up – say “ I’m really really peeved ! ” You see, even the word is funny, it’s impossible to say this word and still be mad, you have to stop and smile.

When someone asks you how you are today, don’t give our usual British dumb answer of “I’m ok” or “I’m good” or “It hasn’t happened yet” or “still here” “hanging in” or any of that dumbness that’s just a waste of good vowels.

Try (for one day) answering “I’m absolutely brilliant! “ “Fabulous” “Wicked, top of the world – marvellous, magic, any variation of this that suits you in particular…. And tell me you don’t feel better…..! Watch your vocabulary it can literally dictate what kind of a day you’re going to have – words create our world – make sure yours is a fun and zingy one

In fact, here’s my challenge to you today, come up with 10 zingy words that make you smile when you say them, and make sure you use them in conversation with customers…. Try it, go on, it’ll be fun !

Spring cleaning :Get your mojo on the move

Friday, April 3rd, 2009
Its time for Spring Cleaning !

Its time for Spring Cleaning !

In line with the season I’m going all Anthea Turner on you. It must be the daffodils but I’m suddenly feeling all positive and energetic and in the mood for cleaning…

So, Spring cleaning… Before you reach for the Marigolds and start dividing the shop up into segments and arguing over who has to do the card spinners. Hold up, I want to talk about mental spring cleaning ! Because putting it simply, Spring is a time to sort out our wardrobes, our houses and gardens, but why not our heads too?

We all get set in our ways without really noticing. Anything that’s round us too much becomes familiar and so not really appreciated. So why not take a few minutes to really have a GOOD look around your shop – with a fresh perspective from a customer’s viewpoint, and see what they see?

* Outside sign – Is it clean? Is your name/ logo dated? Does it need a makeover? Is it a good colour? Does it stand out clearly in your street? Do you need a sideways hanging sign for more visibility?

* Is the outside of your shop clean? Are all the bulbs working? Do all your window graphics complement each other? Do you have a bright Spring colours display in pride of place?

* Can you change your window display more often than usual now, to stimulate interest in your store? Have you got set in your way of display Could you let someone else dress the window for once?

* Have you mailed all your customers about your new Spring offers?

* Have you made up soundbite sheets about all your new products so that everyone has something knowledgeable to say to the customers?

* Have you sent out at least one press release to the local media about your new stock?

* Does everyone have keys to all the cabinets or do you have to rush about the shop looking for the right key when a customer wants to view something close up?

* Do you have a shop blog? If you don’t could you start one to drive up website traffic. Is your website bang up to date?

* Do you have a marketing plan for the year? Note, this says marketing, not advertising. You can still market successfully even when there’s no money for advertising, or very little money shall we say?

* Is your website address printed on all your stationary, including your carrier bags? Are your business cards up to date? Do they say on the back of them what you do and what your USP is?

* Have you joined your local chamber of Commerce or networking group, to meet new people and get some new ideas. Check out business link for some great cheap or free courses to get your spring mojo in full working order…!

* If its all a bit much and it feels like you’re walking through treacle – are you talking to someone about it? Don’t keep it all in. There’s always something that can be done to improve things, a problem shared is a problem halved (depending of course on who you talk to - pick them wisely!).
If everything is going well, give yourself a pat on the back, and see what else you can do J

* Finally indulge yourself in some fresh flowers to bring in the Spring and bring the shop to life, women always notice fresh flowers, so share the feel good factor and bring a treat quality to the shopping experience !

In the words of Cliff : Here comes Summer…….! I think he also said “school is out, oh happy days” but i’m going to let that one go !

Enjoy the sunshine !

Why we’ve got to break the rules…!

Wednesday, April 1st, 2009
Create some buzz

Create some buzz

We’re all under constant pressure to conform. From our earliest days we want to fit in. We want to be liked at school and with our friends. We don’t want to stand out. We’re told to work hard, to get a “proper job”, to do what we’re told and somehow it will all be ok…?

And now, as business owners we’re supposed to do what everyone else does… panic, bed in, and hope for the best, or the swift passing of this recession – Inshallah ! But there’s a problem with this way of thinking…. and the problem is that it takes the locus of control away from us…

Successful entrepreneurs and business owners refuse to conform because conforming means doing what everyone else does. Its clear that many businesses will struggle in the year ahead, and if we do what they’re doing then we’ll struggle too. As the old saying goes, “if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got”. The rather more well known version goes – “the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result” So, we must be different, we must do things differently…. So what can we do?

Firstly, don’t cut our marketing and advertising (unless you know its not working) Look for ways to attract customers at a low cost. I’m a big believer in marketing, especially when we don’t have any spare dosh for advertising – Marketing is just a fancy term for being creative in everything you do that promotes your business, and for a very small outlay you can generate some very positive publicity for your business. How can you get people talking about your business? After all referrals are the cheapest and most reliable way to bring in new business.

Secondly, don’t buy into the belief that people aren’t spending money. While it’s clear that consumers decision making process on how to spend money has changed, if you understand the sales process and the value proposition you can position your business as the first choice for your customers.

The third idea is Implementation – try things, better a good plan today than a great plan tomorrow! Don’t wait until everything is just so, just jump in and have a go! This is a perfect time to try things you’ve always thought about doing…. So loyalty cards, birthday clubs, open evenings, workshops, fashion cafes…. Whatever you go with, the only requisite is that we take action, remember, nodding is fun to do, but largely ineffective.

Finally, whatever you do, don’t conform to the countries negative mindset. There is a comfort in joining in the whole recession conversation, but just as you choose what to wear in the morning, you can choose your mental outlook.
Don’t ignore the recession and pretend its not there in a tra la la la la kind of way, but just don’t act from a mindset of fear, make the changes that need to be made from the mindset of focus and determination. This is really the time to market yourself shamelessly- Have some fun with your marketing – really push the boat out, get everyone together and think of the stories and possibilities around your business.

While we’re talking about money, its worth remembering that the same amount of money still moves around every day, regardless of whether the stock market is up or down, and regardless of whether house prices go up or down, it’s still moving. Whenever there’s a segment that’s going through a down cycle, there’s a segment going through an up cycle. So, bearing this in mind, how could you position yourself and your business to be in the position to receive some of this flowing money?

Which are the media that your target customers read, which places do they go to? Which organisations do they belong to? How creative can you be in getting a potential list of new customers together? Check out the library, the post office, online forums, local centres and community opportunities.

Once you’ve found them, how can you communicate to them in a way that resonates with them, on twitter, facebook, by email, by post, by poster, by banner, an invitation, a declaration, a modification ? – What’s going to work best for your potential customers?

The only limit is how creative you can be – Remember there’s no prizes for conforming ! Give yourself a big target ( It’ll be easier to hit )- So for April, why not make it your goal to create some buzz around your business – with the end goal of converting some buzz into business (sales) and have some fun doing it.

Can a yawn create a retail epidemic?

Friday, March 27th, 2009

Yawning is infectious !

Yawning is infectious !


What’s an epidemic and what’s it got to do with retail?

Epidemics are by their nature contagious. If I say epidemic to you you’ll probably think of a cold of flu epidemic, as that’s what the media uses most often. But epidemics don’t have to be biological. We can epidemics of crime or fashion, or hope – witness the inauguration of President Obama.

Lets consider yawning for instance. Yawning is a contagious act, just because you’ve read the word yawning three times now, you’re probably thinking about yawning, or actually yawning. I’m yawning myself here writing this. If you’re reading this where other people can see you yawning you’ve probably started a mini yawning epidemic of your very own.

Yawning is incredibly contagious, just by writing the word yawn, you’re likely to Yawn. Just as an aside to the yawn epidemic as some of you yawned did it cross your mind that you might be tired? So consider that yawns are emotionally contagious too, simply by writing the word yawn I can create a feeling in your mind.

Isn’t that interesting, what does that mean for retailers ? – Well, it goes some way to explain the resurgence of products with union jack flags on them for instance, and they’re really coming into fashion now, at a time when supporting team GB is really rather vital.

It explains the national indulgence with things vintage and shall we say “pre-loved” and the green effect – all side factors of a recession economy.

But the real value in the great yawn debate is the realisation that big changes can follow small events. We seem hard wired to think that the link between cause and effect must be massive. We are trained to think that if we want to communicate that we love someone for instance we must speak passionately, if we are angry we should communicate this loudly (Eastenders anyone? Could anyone be in any doubt someone is angry on that TV programme?)

But sometimes big changes follow from small events, and they can happen very quickly… There is a tipping point for virus’s, ideas and even for recessions – have you noticed the more balanced news reporting (locally at least) on the recession recently? There comes a point where everyone is literally sick of the bad news and journalists start casting around for good news stories to tip the balance from going too far in the wrong direction.

So what should you do about the yawn factor? Simple, anything you can that’s going to increase your chances of things tipping in your direction….. get yourself in the paper, write a blog, re-do your window, freshen up your approach, get a haircut , anything that makes you feel good, so you radiate this positive approach, because small things can create big changes, talk to your neighbouring shops, create a trade association, get on the council so you can vote against increasing car parking charges…. ! Whatever it takes !

If you’re in any doubt about the power you have, consider the yawn factor, and when you’re sat in that local council meeting just turn to your neighbour and yawn, and once you realise the power of this, you’ll have to take the superhero charter, and promise to only use your power for good, because yawning is the small stuff, there’s lots of big stuff you can do too…!

Remember the power of the yawn !

Retail is detail, what creates change?

Wednesday, March 25th, 2009

Positivity is contagious !

Positivity is contagious !

Its fashionable in the Uk, to diss stuff, everything really from celebrities, we build them up and we knock them down, its sooooo predictable (except for a few stalwarts who are the nation’s favourites you gotta love Brucie !) to food, our roads, our weather - anything is fair game !

I don’t really understand this attitude – I really just don’t get it ! In my travels in other countries I don’t see this – I mean, sure they acknowledge their counties problems but they’re also proud of their countries – They certainly don’t do that knowing sarcastic half smile and then soundly trounce it !

So I got to wondering, why this is? I’ve been pondering this and I think its because we don’t like to raise our hopes because they’ve been dashed in the past. Children certainly don’t seem to ascribe to this cynicism, so it must come later. I think that by the time we’ve become what I’ll loosely term “grown ups” we’ve been kicked in the teeth a few times and probably learned to lower our expectations. Is it nature? Is it nurture?

I think its nurture because while there’s obviously individual differences in people, I don’t see other countries with this bizarre “mustn’t grumble” attitude of “well, it could be worse” Since when did – It could be worse become a reason to get up and go to work in the morning? It certainly doesn’t spur me into action.

There’s a raft of information on change, the individual, the crowd, the society, But what’s the actual tipping point?

Well, that something could be the “broken windows theory” which was the brainchild of Wilson & Gelling, who were criminologists, who argued that crime far from being a nature beating nurture effect was in fact due to the little things, so for instance, crime would be the inevitable result of disorder.

If a window is broken and left unrepaired, people walking by will soon conclude that no-one cares about the building and no-one is in charge. Pretty soon there’ll be more broken windows and this sense of anarchy will spread from this building to the street and beyond to the area. Sending the signal that anything goes and no-one cares, creating a downward spiral.

This is the epidemic theory of crime. It says that crime is contagious – just as a fashion trend is contagious, but here the tipping point isn’t a person or group of people it’s a thing – a broken window.

By the same measure positivity is also contagious. If you doubt me, walk down the street and smile at people – 9 out of ten will smile back at you, especially if you make it a big megawatt smile ! (the other one will be so shocked that someone smiled at them that their reactions will be delayed) So you just introduced some positivity into the world – with a smile. It didn’t cost you anything, its fleeting sure, but so is cleanliness, we have to work at being clean every day, why shouldn’t we work at being a positive contribution too.

So just for today, hang up your negativity hat and try to make everything that comes out of your mouth a positive phrase.

Try it, what harm can it do?

Standing out versus fitting in…!

Monday, March 23rd, 2009

unlock your potential

unlock your potential

You won’t have any trouble at all finding someone who can tell you how to fit in.

Almost anyone can tell you what to wear to that restaurant or this show or that event. Smart, dressy, smart casual, all black, cocktail dress, black tie optional, you get the picture…

It’s not that difficult to figure out how to fit in – If of course, fitting in is your goal. You should be able to get great advice on how to do that.

Standing out, of course, is trickier. Stand out too much and you’re an idiot, or a troublemaker, or a fool. Putting yourself above the parapet is dangerous – Lets face it you’re going to get shot at ! There’s always someone who loves to question your intentions, or tell you how you’re doing it wrong…!

Clothing is not the issue. But choice is. You have this choice to make in everything you do, from your career, your business, your window displays, to the wording of a sales letter.

I understand this concern. I realise that I can come across as flippant, or a know it all, when in fact the reverse is true, I started this project when I realised that there just wasn’t a resource for independent retailers out there… I started it because I like to learn, I wanted to expand who I was, and meet some new people, learn some new stuff and move out of my comfort zone, in short I wanted a challenge.

Of course, as soon as I’d started it (and publicised it, so I couldn’t back out of it) that by the way is the best way to ensure that you’ll carry something through – tell everyone you know what you’re going to do and by when !!! Where was I? – Yes, as soon as I’d started it, I wondered what on earth I thought I was doing, who was I to take this on, and what was I thinking….?

But I’d already committed myself to it, designed the website, talked to the right people – and had some stickers made, even (although that does sound like a ridiculous reason to continue - even to me)– so I carried on, of course, and now I’m amazed by the phone calls and positive response I get and I have a different idea of who I am and what I can do.

So what’s my point? – Its simply this – Choose !

Are you doing this to fit in or stand out? What’s going to be best for you and for your business? So make that call today, call the local newspaper editor, come up with a marketing campaign, buy a sales book and learn something new, expand your idea of who you are and what you can do…..

In short and in the words of a brilliant movie – Choose something, choose anything, choose a challenge !